Preparing Sons… and daughters…

I’ve been doing a lot of research and thinking lately…

Thinking involving time.  and entertainment.  Years ago, I purchased a really good book written by Steven Maxwell, called “Preparing Sons to Provide for a Single-Income Family”.  He and his wife, Teri have written several great books about  having a godly home and raising children.  They have 8 children, mostly grown now, so they have the credentials.  You can purchase their books at

Yesterday I was reminding my children of how dangerous entertainment can be by reading excerpts from the book.  Here are a few quotes:

Appetites when fed become passions. Parents need to be extremely careful  about which appetites they create in their children.

Work is not a punishment, it is a gift.

The man who finds his joy in serving has the potential for a lifetime of joy.  The man whose joy is in entertainment finds his joy is dependent entirely on the size of his income.

Our society is addicted to entertainment… what eternal value is gained through entertainment?… are we so anxious to be entertained that we  allow our minds to be filled with  wrong thoughts and words?…how can a professing Christian allow his mind to be filled with these things? (Philippians 4:8)…create a passion for entertainment in your child and it will be a lead weight, strapped to his back, keeping him from God’s bestall Christians are accountable to the Lord for how they spend their time.

Christians are not on this earth to have a good time fulfilling the lust of the flesh.

The computer is a tool, not a toy.

Others will tell you to expect your children to rebel. The truth is that you will reap what you sow… your son needs to see the world as an endless serving opportunity, not  a vast playground.

He shares a quote from David Barton:

“Today, for whatever reason, we attempt to prolong adolescence and unfortunately embed the tendencies of adolescence in the adult (decisions made based on what is fun and enjoyable ather than what is right); the world revolving around the idnividual child;etc) Consequently, we have far too many adults who still act like adolescents, displaying their selfishenss and immatutiry in public office, in professional sports, in media, in marriage, and every other arena.”

Mark 4:19 And the cares of this world and the deceitfulness of riches, and the lust of other things entering in, choking the Word, and it becomes unfruitful

James 1:27 Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, to visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction and to keep himself unspotted from the world

The best part is the way he understands Proverbs 22:6  “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it” and explains that it is not a promise to be misused as many do today.  I’ll leave that part for you to discover when you read the book! =)

The following passage is my “Media Passage”

Ephesians 5:1-17

Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children; and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma.

But immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints; and there must be no filthiness and silly talk, or coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know with certainty, that no immoral or impure person or covetous man, who is an idolater, has an inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.

Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience. Therefore do not be partakers with them; for you were formerly darkness, but now you are Light in the Lord; walk as children of Light (for the fruit of the Light consists in all goodness and righteousness and truth), trying to learn what is pleasing to the Lord. Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them; for it is disgraceful even to speak of the things which are done by them in secret. But all things become visible when they are exposed by the light, for everything that becomes visible is light.

For this reason it says,
“Awake, sleeper,
And arise from the dead,
And Christ will shine on you.”

Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil. So then do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.

I need to ask myself more often…

Does this movie, computer time, book, tv (we don’t have cable or satellite or an antennae, only videos) etc contain ~

  • immorality (condoning or making light of homosexuality, adultery, fornication, murder)
  • impurity
  • greed (business success can easily be disguised as greed)
  • filthiness
  • silly talk
  • coarse jesting
  • covetousness (commercials and ads)
  • idolatry (of athletes or musicians)
  • empty words
  • unfruitful deeds of darkness

Is this causing me (my children) to think about things that are true, honest, just, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous?

When we watch/read/listen to this, am I making the best use of the time my Creator has given me?

Can we do this and still keep ourselves unspotted from the world?

Is the Word producing fruit in our lives?

O Lord, please keep our family from falling into the trap of entertainment.  It is so easy to do.  Help us to be good stewards of the time we have and use it to serve You.


2 thoughts on “Preparing Sons… and daughters…

  1. Joycelyn Connet says:

    I definitely need to check out this book.
    I tell my boys they need to really prepare to live in such a way that their wives can be at home raising their children while they work, and to seek God’s will in all they do. I have also instructed our daughter to seek God’s heart when finding the right man and pray he is prepared to support my daughter and any children they might have in such a way that allows her to remain home with the kids and care for the home.

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