A Mighty Warrior


Here are a couple of teachings from Proverbs 31 and other key verses regarding the true meaning of the Hebrew words and what a real HELPMEET and “Keeper at Home” is.  Much to consider here!  There is also a teaching for men by Frank Seekins called “Rebel, Wimp and Warrior”, but since this blog is geared for women, I will not be including it here =)

Biblical Role of Women Part One

http://graceintorah.wordpress.com/2013/05/15/the-biblical-role-of-women/

Part Two

http://graceintorah.wordpress.com/2013/05/19/the-biblical-role-of-women-part-ii/

What is a Suitable Helpmeet?


Having been only a helpmeet of one man, I can’t answer this question for everyone specifically, but here are some of my thoughts.

I don’t believe it is the same for every marriage – it depends on your man. While one man might be a farmer, he may need his wife to help him out in the fields, have hearty meals ready for him when he comes in and take care of the children. Another man might have his own business where he works at an office in the home or somewhere else. He might need his wife to do his bookkeeping or do some secretarial services for him. A third man might be teacher and need his wife to grade papers for him. Some men work for someone else and just need their wives to keep the home looking homey and make tasty food. Yet another may be in-between jobs and need his wife to help with the income on a temporary basis.

Each man will have different needs. How are you going to know how you can be the best helper to your man? Ask him! =)

Here are a couple of things you might ask…

Honey, when you get home every day, what three things would be the most important to you for me to have done?

  1. dinner in the oven
  2. the house spic and span
  3. Me wearing makeup and with my hair fixed extra special
  4. 20 minutes of time to unwind and recharge before the children come talk to me
  5. Just bring me my slippers and a newspaper and I’ll be fine

etc.

Think of more ideas. You know your man. =)

So this is a start. I welcome your feedback. New ideas? Share how you are a helpmeet to your man! =)

Torah Portion notes from First Fruits of Zion


Chayei Sarah – חיי שרה : “Life of Sarah”
Torah : Genesis 23:1-25:18
Haftarah : I Kings 1:1-31
Gospel : Matthew 2:1-23

Thought for the Week:

Genesis 24:67 says that Isaac took Rebekah, she became his wife and he loved her. Notice the order. This seems backward to us. We would expect the opposite. In our culture, we believe that a person should marry whoever he or she falls in love with. Falling in love is a terrible criteria upon which to base a marriage. What should marriage be based upon?

Commentary:

Then Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and he took Rebekah, and she became his wife, and he loved her; thus Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death. (Genesis 24:67)

Isaac took his bride into his mother’s tent. All this time Sarah’s tent had been empty and forlorn, symbolizing the absence of the eishet chayil (virtuous wife). The Torah portion began the story of Rebekah by telling us of the death of Sarah. Since his mother’s death, Isaac had been in mourning. He keenly felt her absence. Isaac taking his bride into Sarah’s tent symbolizes Rebekah stepping into Sarah’s role as matriarch over the house of Abraham. In the language of the rabbis, Rebekah became the house of Isaac.

Abraham loved Sarah, and Isaac loved Rebekah. Genesis 24:67 says that Isaac took Rebekah, she became his wife and he loved her. Notice the order. This seems backward to us. We would expect the opposite. He should have fallen in love with her, married her and then taken her into the tent. The Bible has a more sober (but no less romantic) view of marriage. Isaac did not marry Rebekah because he loved her; he loved Rebekah because he married her. Considering the folly of the human heart and the fickle ups and downs of emotions, this is the proper order of things. We should love our spouses because they are our spouses.

In our culture, we believe that a person should marry whoever he or she falls in love with. This is a bad plan. It is possible to fall in love with the wrong person. It is possible to fall in love with many wrong persons. Falling in love is a terrible criteria upon which to base a marriage. It would have been easy for Isaac to fall in love with any number of Canaanite girls.

As children of Abraham and followers of Messiah, we men are to love our wives. Paul tells men to love their wives as themselves–and more than that, to love them as Messiah loved the assembly. He warns husbands not to become embittered against their wives. It’s not a matter of the whims and inclinations of the heart; it is a duty of every husband to love his wife.

If a man or woman bases his or her marriage merely on love, it is doomed from the start. Feelings are unpredictable. They rise and fall. They come and go. Marriage must not be based upon love. Love must be based upon marriage.