Planned Barrenhood

Before I was married, WAY back in the 80s, I read a book that was to change my thinking in so many areas!  The book was “The Way Home” by Mary Pride.  Mary led the way for so many changes in the lives of MANY people and I am so thankful for that!  The topic of THIS post is only one of the subjects she covered… birth control. It is so important that the entire first half of the book covers this topic.  In fact, I am going to place a link to the book right here so you can purchase it!  PLEASE DO!  This information is SO NEEDED in our day – especially among believers =)

The Way Home: Beyond Feminism, Back to Reality

(this link goes to my Amazon store and I get a little commission from the sales.  Thank you for helping support our family with your purchase)

So on to the subject at hand.  I am actually going to use this book and another book called “Be Fruitful and Multiply by Nancy Campbell as springboards for a Scripture study.  I already *know* how the Creator feels about this, but I want to be able to share with others from Scripture and not just from these two wonderfully written books!  I think this area of our lives as believers is one of THE most important and one that truly shows where our hearts are at more than just about anything else!

Yikes!  I know this topic will be VERY controversial, but I truly feel it is URGENT to talk about!

This will be an ongoing discussion.  Todays post is just the introduction.  I welcome your comments, even those that disagree… as long as you are respectful and back up what you say with Scripture. =)

I will leave you with this thought as we begin our journey into the study of the gift of children…

The very FIRST command ever given to mankind can be found in Genesis chapter 1 and verse 28

“And Elohim …said to them, “Be fruitful and increase, and fill the earth and subdue it, and rule over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the heavens, and over all creeping on the earth”


Family Driven Faith

The title of this post is also the title of a book I am presently reading.  The author Voddie T Baucham Jr. is very easy to follow and the book is excellent!  It was recommended to me by a good friend who is also a reader of this blog. (Thank you, Mark)

I have had this book on my “to read” list, along with dozens of other books and this week I decided I am going to just read it.  Wow!  Right away in the first chapter Mr. Baucham gets down to business, talking about the very, very disturbingly high percentage of our young people who leave home and shortly afterward, they leave Christianity.  The remaining pages of the chapter describe the reasons this takes place and he presents a very compelling case.  Friends, the failure rate for modern american christianity is from 70-88%.  This is disgraceful!  It is NOT a normal accepted teenage behavior for our children to go through rebellion and we should not expect it or accept it.  Would we accept it if our youth had  an 80% failure rate in any area of their education?  sports?  music?  Why have we come to even expect it in this most important area of our lives???

Voddie challenges us as parents, with a special emphasis on fathers, to take a serious look at our own lives and priorities to both correct and prevent this same thing from happening in each of our homes.  This is a very sobering and desperately needed book.

If you are seeking to raise children who desire above all else to follow the Supreme God, Creator of the Universe and walk in His ways…

If you are willing to be challenged to the core and hear some hard things…

If you are open to making lasting changes in the way you parent, the way you think and even in the way you live…

I highly recommend this book!

You can find it on Amazon at the following link for only $13.59:

Family Driven Faith: Doing What It Takes to Raise Sons and Daughters Who Walk with God

Delegating Responsibilities

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Do you feel like you will never get it all done?  Are you afraid to give your children household work because you can do it better and faster?

As a young mom I always wondered why an older mother of many children I new could need to vacuum every day and still not have a spotless house.  With all those helpers, I thought it would be even easier to keep a clean house…

Now that I am the older mom, I have discovered that older children make bigger messes… and I have less energy than I used to have, meaning it is not as easy to keep the house clean as it used to be when my children were younger.  If only we could always step in other people’s shoes before we make assumptions. =)

So, how does a mother of many older children keep her house clean?  What is a good standard for clean?  What household jobs are appropriate for what ages?

Much of this is based on each family and each child specifically, but I can share what we have done in hopes that it will be helpful to you.

When my children were young, up to age 6 or maybe 8, I gave them small jobs, such as folding small laundry items, sweeping, caring for the dogs or cats, bringing the smaller garbage cans to me to be emptied, setting the table, watering the flowers…  and of course cleaning up after themselves and making their bed.  These jobs were instrumental in giving them a sense of working together as a family, learning to do a good job and feeling needed.  The most important things to look for at that age are the attitude toward helping, toward work and doing their best.  Perfection is not as important as having a good attitude and doing your best.  It is a fine balance between teaching them to do acceptable work and discouraging them by making them do it over too many times.

The next stage of cleaning included cleaning sinks, sweeping, and doing dishes.  When they are big enough and strong enough, vacuuming is added (we have a Kirby, which is a pretty heavy vacuum).

As the boys got older, I began to have them carry wood, chop wood, do minor household repairs, be in charge of the woods stove, etc.

This last stage is the one that, for us, includes cooking and baking.  The requirements vary according to their age and ability.  My goal is for them to understand meal planning which includes a well-balanced meal and having everything finished at the same time.

When we had goats and chickens, all of the older children helped with milking, gathering eggs, feeding and watering and cleaning out stalls.  When we had a garden, everyone helped with planting, watering, weeding and harvesting.

We all take turns doing laundry, which includes washing, hanging out, folding and putting away.

Each of us has a week doing dishes and the girls share a week since they are younger.

One of my sons cooks breakfast during the week, my daughters do breakfast for one day on the weekend, two sons and one daughter each cook one dinner each week and I take Thursday noon through Sunday noon..

I feel it’s very important that we all participate in housework since we all get to eat, wear clothes and have a roof over our head.  I also think work builds character.

In addition to organizing the house and schedules, supervising and inspecting all work to make sure it is done and done properly, overseeing the learning department and acting as referee when necessary.. I participate in some of the things listed above and there are a few chores left that I take part in:

  • most of the weeding
  • dusting and glass cleaning
  • keep the master bathroom and master bedroom clean
  • make soap and candles for the family and sometimes to sell
  • make yogurt and cheese
  • grocery shopping
  • cut the dogs hair and shampoo him
  • cut or trim the children’s hair
  • occasionally I step in and help someone with their job, usually in the kitchen or vacuuming
  • make bread
  • Quickbooks

At one point I used a book called Managers of Their Homes, which is a very detailed book for scheduling your home.  You can buy it used on Amazon.  There is also a new book out by the same author entitled Managers of Their Chores.